if u feel the first cramp and think “i dont need a painkiller yet, itll pass” ? that the devil speaking, take that painkiller immediately
It’s a lot easier to prevent cramps from getting bad than to stop them once they already are. Take the medicine sooner and use the heating pad sooner rather than later.
This is true of pain medication for ANY condition. My mom drilled this into me back when she worked as an O.R. nurse: Do not wait until the pain is bad. If you know it’s going to be, get ahead of it. First cramp? Medicate now. Twinges of a headache? Medicate now. Pulled your back and you know you’ll feel it later? Medicate NOW.
You don’t put mittens on when your fingers are already frozen and you don’t wait until the pain is unbearable to take painkillers.
found this informative, about how studios are going to attempt to use influencers (particularly small ones) to try to cross pickets by paying a lot for movie promos, and that SAG-AFTRA likely will not let you in if you do this. my suspicion is they’re hoping people won’t understand the implications so wanted to spread the word!!
Very important note here, yes.
PROMOTION is part of an actor’s job. And it’s one of the things they’re not allowed to do on strike.
SAG Actors are not allowed to do promotions at ComicCon this year. They can attend, as long as they don’t:
Participate in specific-show promotions (e.g. “five years later - actors of X series”)
Talk about their current work
Talk about upcoming work
They are encouraged not to attend at all, in part because those are complex issues and it’s easy to trip on them.
TikTok and YouTube INFLUENCERS are likely to be contacted by studios and told, “how would you like to make a LOT of money, talking about this show?”
…Do not take the poisoned bait.
That counts as crossing the picket line, and would result in:
Being banned from SAG-AFTRA membership for life, and
Possibly being blocked from other union jobs if they find out that you scabbed during a strike.
New day, new pin reveal. Is that a thing? Let’s make that a thing.
We’re gradually unveiling some of the pin designs available in the mystery packs on Kickstarter. We’ll be adding a dedicated add-on section to the Kickstarter campaign page to lay out what’s available and answer some questions people have had about it, so watch this space.
Get the graphic novel, pins and more over on Kickstarter.
If you have already supported the Kickstarter, you can head over and add the pins over in the manage your pledge section.
If you haven’t supported the Good Omens Graphic Novel Kickstarter, you probably should. It’s going to be a beautiful book, even more beautiful than we had dreamed because we’ve managed to hit some fancy pledge goals, and incredible value for money.
uh so i never do this but maui is quite literally on fire and there isn’t nearly enough care or consideration for. you know. Native Hawaiians who live here being displaced and the land (and cultural relevance) that’s being eaten up by the fire. so if ya’ll wanna help, here’s some links:
please reblog and spread the word if you can’t donate.
If you have ever been a tourist in Hawai'i then you should donate, rescue efforts are focused on tourists not natives. It’s despicable, but then again, what the US has done to Hawai'i is nothing short of genocidal so it’s not a surprise.
The Union Solidarity Coalition has been formed by WGA members to start helping those in other unions affected by the strike. Look this over and pass it on…
People in badly written fantasy stories will usually talk about the major historical events of their world and how magic has affected the lives of everyone, but ask a person in the real world to describe the effects of WWI and the invention of the combustion engine on modern life and they’d probably couldn’t tell you.
Broke: every character seems to know everything about the history and lore of the world
Woke: most characters can’t tell you much besides the basics but there are some that can tell you more complete but specific parts
H Y P E R W O K E: Every character tells you a wildly different version of the past and what effects it has on the present, ranging from the government is an imperialist, colonizing body obsessed with power to the one true ruler was sent by the gods and has smote down anyone who got in his way to “Oh you mean Jeff, the quote unquote tyrant of the west? I knew that guy! He was alright, never did anything wrong really just wanted some soup.” And there’s no way to tell what actually happened
I like your thinking
really sorry to all my followers but I’m reblogging this every time it’s on my dash
redditors coming to tumblr is gonna create a spike in people figuring out they’re trans that will rival even the first 6 months of quarantine
it’s ok, boys. i was once as you are. let the questions bloom & the answers enfold you 🌸
PSA to newcomers! if you:
constantly think about what it would be like to be another gender
feel envy towards another gender (sometimes mixed up with attraction to that gender)
believe anyone would choose to be that other gender if they could because it’s simply the better option
feel like you lost a genetic coin flip at conception because you could have been another gender
feel anguish and longing because you’re not “one of the girls”/“one of the boys” or because you’re excluded from gendered activities like girls’ nights
have dismissed the idea of transitioning yourself because you wouldn’t be “real” enough, or because “real” trans people know for sure when they’re young
then uhhhhhh you might want to think about that a bit! if any of those things rang a bell, then DM me and we’ll chat about it 🩵🩷🤍 😘
And always remember – you never need the “whole thing”. Gender identity and expression are both vast spectrums.
It’s way more useful, rather than trying to answer the big question of Am I Really A Girl ™, to break it down into individual subunits:
What aspects of my current body and/or gendered existence (social interaction, name, pronouns, terms of address, etc etc) am I unhappy with?
What aspects am I neutral about, but could be better?
What measures of transition exist to address those needs?
To use myself as an example: I genuinely hated the way that testosterone made me feel, emotionally and physically. Going on testosterone blockers was a way to solve that problem.
But I like my facial hair, especially after estrogen, so I kept it.
If you feel like aspects of being your assigned gender are painful to you, but you’re not sure you’re Really A Woman/Man ™, figure out what’ll make you happy and just do that. Take my hand, and join me in the big wide world of gender homebrewing.
Some nonbinary identities? Some nonbinary identities!
Nonbinary: “My gender is neither 100% male nor 100% female.” (Common umbrella term, many nonbinary people use additional labels as well.)
Genderfluid: “My gender keeps changing!”
Bigender: “Gee, how come your Mom let you have two genders?”
Multigender: “You could call me a collector.”
Agender: “Gender? No thank you.”
Neutrois: “My gender is nope.”
Demigirl: “Maybe a little bit girl but not that much.”
Demiboy: “Maybe a little bit boy but not that much.”
Genderflux: “Sometimes I get a little bit gender (other times, I don’t).”
Genderfuck/Genderpunk: “My gender is actively subversive!”
Genderqueer: “Honestly my gender is just queer.”
‘Genderqueer’ in particular has a lot of overlap with 'nonbinary’, and a lot of people use both (for instance, I use agender, genderqueer, nonbinary, and transgender), although there are differences! 'Nonbinary’ is by far the most common term for those who don’t exclusively identify as one binary gender or the other (63.1% according to the 2023 Gender Census; genderqueer came in with about 35%), 'genderqueer’ is less common but still important as hell.
Genderqueer, specifically, can be seen as the loud reclamation of 'queer’ as a gender identity. This is my gender (or lack thereof), and it’s queer. Binary or nonbinary, trans or cis, if your gender is queer, then the term genderqueer could work for you. There’s a good post on it here that articulates it nicely.
Examining some misconceptions:
Do you have to be androgynous to be nonbinary? You do not! A lot of nonbinary people enjoy androgyny, a lot specifically desire androgyny, but there are a lot of other nonbinary people who are perfectly content and comfortable presenting as their AGAB (assigned gender at birth), as a different gender full-time (ie. an AFAB person presenting masculine full-time), etc. Gender presentation does not equal gender identity, and that goes for any gender identity.
Aren’t nonbinary people all teens? Not at all! I worked out I was nonbinary in my late twenties, and am now 36. Judith Butler published Gender Trouble, one of the first major publications to look at nonbinary identities, in 1990, when they were 24 (they’re now 67 and still identify as nonbinary), and Riki Wilchins coined the term genderqueer in the mid-90s, when they were in their 40s!
Do nonbinary people have dysphoria? Some do, some don’t. Some have physical dysphoria, some have social dysphoria, some don’t have either. Some take hormones, some get surgery, some change their names and pronouns, some change their presentation, some don’t. The same goes for binary trans people - dysphoria is not a requirement for being trans. The only thing that makes you trans is identifying as a gender other than the one you were assigned at birth - the rest is down to human variation.
Don’t you all have blue undercuts and incomprehensible pronouns? You can do your hair however you like forever. As for pronouns, anyone can use any pronouns they want, cis people included! I know cis people who use they/them because they enjoy their gender being irrelevant to how people see them. I also know a lot of nonbinary people who don’t use they/them! There are no universal pronouns that are going to be 100% accepted by everyone - in the 2023 Gender Census, only 74.5% used they/them, with 42.5% using he/him and 32.7% using she/her. A full 11.5% didn’t use either of those three, and there are a bunch of linguistically fascinating pronoun sets that many feel more comfortable with.
These pronouns aren’t proper English! Stop changing things! Nah. First, language is ridiculously fluid. We come up with new vocabulary all the time. Imagine if in 1974, someone told Bob Kahn and Vint Cerf they couldn’t use this neologism internet, that’d never catch on? And some of these terms are significantly older than a lot of people realise - the singular they was first used in the 14th century. 'Ou’ was first used in 1789, 'thon’ used as a gender-neutral pronoun in 1858, and 'ze’ in 1864. The Spivak variations (popularised in 1991 on LambdaMOO by Michael Spivak, but in use well beforehand) had an early example in 1890, and I personally use the Elverson set (ey/em/emself) as my secondary set (after they/them), first developed in 1975. These are long histories, and you can choose whatever makes you most comfortable from within, old or new, common or uncommon.
Isn’t this all very… permissive? Yep! You can do whatever you want forever.
Some sources:
Nonbinary Wiki (all-purpose wiki with histories, etymology, notable figures, fictional characters, flags, etc)
Gender Census (longrunning, ongoing survey of nonbinary people, fantastic for checking out trends in terminology)
actually i left it in the tags in a previous post but i think i am going to point it out in its own post.
being a man does NOT mean being dirty.
being a man does NOT mean that you are greasy, smelly, and use 13 in 1 and don’t wash your ass.
and it was fucking WEIRD to see that perpetuated, even jokingly, for a long time. and probably still is in certain spaces. i left a lot of circles because of the vehement anti-transmasc shit i saw on there. and you know what? you joke about something enough times youre going to believe it, whether outright or not. and if not you? someone who is constantly exposed to it.
I WAS dirty right after i figured out i was transmasc. but it wasnt because i was transmasc on its own. it was because i was depressed. so incredibly depressed i couldn’t bother to get out of bed a lot of the time, let alone have to look at my own naked body in the shower. and that depression was WORSENED because i was in spaces that acted like being a man is gross. being a man means being dirty, and violent, and the implication that trans men are getting rid of the good part about them by leaving womanhood. i am STILL wrestling with that.
comparisons to transmascs and transfems making the transmascs gross “gremlins” who are insane and the transfems are feminine goddesses who can do no wrong is hurtful to BOTH communities. Transfems don’t HAVE to be feminine and gentle and sweet all the time. They can be loud and dirty if they want to be. And transmascs can be as quiet and pretty as THEY want to be. because none of it should be a sign of a true man or woman to be those things.
im rambling. cutting to the chase, that was fucking weird of you people. i hope to the gods i never see that shit again.
in hindsight, the american public school idea of gym class was both absolutely buckwild and also incredibly ableist. i have a degree in education, and the more time i spend away from being a student, the less the concepts espoused there make any sense to me.
i was dancing ballet somewhere between 3-5 days a week, but i have never been a good runner. i have asthma and, at the time, i had horrible shin splints. yet running was seen as the only indicator of my health. my teacher fucking hated me for my lack of sprinter’s interest here, like i was doing it to spite him. he thought that asthma was something “only for kids”, like i was faking a wracking cough just so i could be “lazy” and “get away with it”.
we weren’t trained how to run safely. we often ran with bad form in sneakers that didn’t quite fit. we were required to be able to ace this test once a year, immediately, with no follow-up or practicing. the rest of the year, gym class was a waste of time and energy. even kids who liked gym liked it because it was useless in entirety.
maybe he hated me because i was one of those students who shouldn’t have struggled. i was pretty fit. during the sit-up test, i outpaced the other kids. corework is incredibly important to dancers, so i found the sit-up test easy. my teacher didn’t take down my first result. he said, i’ve seen how you run, no way your number is that high. i explained i dance,he snorted and said you hardly have the body of an athlete and made me do the test again to be sure i wasn’t “cheating”. when i still passed, he said so you don’t bother running just because you’re a little rebel, huh? i bet you just like making men angry.
we had these sweat-covered wooden boxes to test our hamstring flexibility. you’d sit down, put your feet against a board, and push a slider away from your body. we had 3 turns to pass the test. on the first turn, my teacher watched as i gently pushed the slider to the end of the row instead of shoving myself forcefully over my toes. he said don’t be rude, take the test seriously. i said - “okay, but i clearly can pass the test, i don’t want to force my muscles. sudden movements aren’t good form.” he said i was going to get a detention at this rate. that he knew it was going to be a fight with you, it always is. you like the attention because you don’t get it at home, huh?
i was 14, and i was annoyed and embarrassed, and i didn’t handle it well. so i did as requested. i made my hands into a little diamond and shoved, just the way he wanted. the slider snapped off due to the amount of sudden force. i hit the end of the row so hard the test just fucking broke. i was sitting there, shocked by what was a legitimate accident: and this dude goes white and then red in the face. this is one of the only times in my life i got sent to the principal. he said she is vindictive and broke school property.malicious. noncompliant. for gym that year, i skirted by with an ugly “barely passing” D+.
and i was lucky. for once in my life, my parents were extremely chill about the whole thing. they saw the grade and just laughed about it. they were paying for me to go to dance class 4 hours a day, they knew exactly how fit i was. the principal tried to explain it to them, annoyed with their dismissal: i clearly wasn’t healthy. he made sure they knew i wasn’t an athlete, because dance is not a sport. i had to run the mile three times that year, to “make up” for my lack of effort. i walked it slow on purpose.
and i just… don’t get it. in no other class would the lack of accommodations or training be appropriate. yes, you should know certain things leaving a class, but nobody expects you to be able to recite the whole biology textbook by the third month. nobody particularly expects you to pass a test if the teacher has literally never taught it. imagine if in english, you had a random test on vocabulary, and when you said these are just random words you never taught us. it isn’t a good indicator of my reading level, writing, or of my reading comprehension - you were told: wellit’s most of your grade,but it’s not that fucking hard, is it?
it is not a class about how to cook or how to help yourself balance your diet or how to run or how to get good at stretching or how to stay agile or how to do cool gymnastics or how to listen to your body or how to watch for injury or how to treat chronic pain or how to safely use weights. it was an hour of my life where i would be bullied with the teacher’s permission. i look back at this thing and i just… i don’t get it. while art teachers and english teachers are struggling for any funding - gym is just. protected under the idea it is somehow helping america… stay “fit”. they make us run a mile and then say “great, we’ve measured your health” … and then that’s just… it.
as i was teaching the other day, i mentioned the fitnessgram pacer test to my kids. they’re 19, are in college. many of them haven’t been in gym class for a few years. i wish you could have been there to see their reaction. it was like i reminded them of their worst nightmare. we had to derail the conversation just so each person could go around the room and say their horror story about it. and each person had a horror story.
these days, i’m doing well. i love how strong i am, when i can be strong and my heart don’t act up. i still dance at least 3 times a week. i have a performance on saturday, actually. but before you ask - no, i never learned to run. i don’t really want to either, because it’s just not good for my particular body.
so i guess, according to them - that makes me unhealthy.
